Wednesday, November 11, 2009

To C or not to C...

...section, that is. I’m sure most women come to a point in their pregnancy where they are faced with this decision. For some it’s an easy one: they want to be able to have control over the birth of their child, for example, maybe even a say in the child’s birthday, so they opt for a C-section. For others, the decision is made for them: they have low blood pressure, a history of stillbirths or their baby is breach.

For me, it was never even a question. I wanted a natural birth, and a water birth at that. Which would mean no epidural, which is just fine by me as I have a serious needle phobia (yes, still! Even after numerous blood tests and fertility treatments [read: lots and lots of needles].). Call me insane if you wish, but the mere thought of an epidural completely freaks me out! Why, oh why would I want someone poking needles into my back, risking the off chance of paralysis if something goes wrong?

So many woman fear normal birth, which I can totally understand, it’s a scary concept (even with an epidural). But get this: I gave birth to my (big!) girl, and half an hour later I got up, took a shower and walked to my room. From what I’ve heard of C-sections, you are in pain for days after the birth. I just don’t see the logic! Normal birth = a few hours of pain vs. C-section = days of pain.

I am so thankful though that we live in a modern world with advanced technologies. This meant that I could give birth to my baby the good old fashioned way, in a first class hospital, with a trained doctor and nursing staff at my side, sterilised equipment, only the best medical care at hand should anything go wrong... None of that ‘giving birth on the bed the cat was just lying on with a person calling himself a doctor digging a 9 pound baby out of me with something that bares a frightening resemblance to the braai tongs my husband made dinner with 2 hours ago’! Mmm, the good old days that weren’t quite as good...

As you can gather, I am not keen on scheduled C-sections, neither am I keen on inductions. I believe that God made us so that our bodies will know when baby is ready to be born and that tampering with the process is as good as tampering with God’s plan. Having said that, this is just my opinion and everyone has the right to make their own decisions.

Don’t ever let anyone bully you into doing something that you do not want to do. If you want a normal (even a medication-free, ‘natural’) birth, that is your choice (you wouldn’t let anyone else choose who you should marry, would you?). Remember that the mind is an incredibly powerful thing. My biggest fear was never about the pain of labour, I decided that I will handle that as it comes, my biggest fear was that I was going to feel nauseous during labour. However, I decided beforehand that I will be calm no matter what comes my way, I popped 2 or 3 rescue tablets during labour and I put my mind to just going with the flow.

Barring any complications, I will have a natural, medication-free birth with my next child as well. It was the most amazing experience ever, and I was so proud of myself to be able to say that I was an active part of ‘giving birth’ to my girly, as opposed to just lying there and the doctor literally taking my baby out. Oh, and the admiration I still see in my husband’s eyes is so worth it! I know that I gained a deeper level of respect from him and I know that he is also proud of me.

An interesting story: my sister had water birth with both her sons. With the second one, they had arranged that as soon as my sister’s labour starts, my dad would drive from Jo’burg to Bloem to help with the eldest brother. She phoned my parents to say she was on her way to the birthing clinic and when my dad got to Bloem approximately 4 hours later, she came out to the car to meet him, her and baby already back home from the clinic and on her feet!

10 comments:

  1. I agree, my friend! If I could borrow one thing from you, it would be your birth experience. I had the best birth I could hope for, and I was semi-prepared, but it's still a major thing. It took me 6 months to recover fully.

    xxx

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  2. Thanks for a very informative post and a look from the other side.

    My natural birth with Jordan was awesome and in saying, if I can actually breath next time round, I will do it without the epidural. I found the epi an awful experience to say the least, 8 stabs, serious breathing issues and major contractions later, I had the desired effect, only to have my precious baby have a reaction against it and to have it switched off after a couple of scares.

    I was terrified of giving birth, but the fear of a major operation, far outweighed the fear of labour, and in the end, having had Jordan the natural way, was the most awesome empowering experience that I would definately do again!

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  3. nobody should judge what a mom chooses

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  4. Anonymous...

    She didnt judge, she gave her opinion. Duh!

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  5. Birth Options: always an interesting topic! One topic that will never bore me!

    Even before I got married I wanted a planned csec! I even transfered to Hubby's medical aid before we got married, incase I fell pregnant before I said I do! So when I found out I was pregnant with D, there was no choice, I wanted a c-sec! I am not scared of pain, I am scared of give birth! long story short (will carry on in a post of my own) I had a wonderful experience! C-sec is really not as bad as everyone makes it out be!
    xx

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  6. Everyone has their own opionion - just remember in the old days women died when there were complications and I don't believe that was part of Gods plan for them to die.

    Thank God for new technology.

    I take my hat of to those women who go through natural birth.

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  7. Interesting topic Karien. I also had natural birth with D.

    Rentia, I know of women that have died during c-section, therefore if its our time its your time.

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  8. No I disagree. Why have children then if you are signing a death sentence?

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  9. Giving birth is a major health risk, that's a fact. And women still die, whether by natural birth or c-section. It's a fact of life, it's the way God created us. We don't dwell on it, otherwise none of us would do it. However, there is no way anyone can argue that a planned vaginal delivery in a healthy pregnancy is not the safest method of delivery. There is plenty of research to back this!

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  10. Sorry Karien for imposing on your blog like this.

    I also wanted a normal birth with my first child - but complications made it impossible.

    If you are going to let nature take it's course with complications and the doctor can help you out via C-section then it is not such a bad thing.

    It's not like you are cheating death via C-sec.

    My heart goes out to those women they can't do anything for and does die.

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